Nobody is perfect. Hi. My name is Nobody.

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Iโ€™ve had esteem issues in life. Hopefully Iโ€™ve overcome most of them, some still linger and rear their ugly heads once in a while. Sometimes Iโ€™m strong enough to fight them off and other times Iโ€™m enveloped in this horrible feeling that takes a very long time to shake off.

I read an article that said reading other peopleโ€™s happy status updates on social media only served to depress the people who read them. Funnily, I saw the said article on a social networking site. I guess there is an element of truth in this. One starts measuring oneself up against what one is reading. I had a look at my personal accounts and saw that mostly Iโ€™m cheerful, other times Iโ€™m colourful (with the language!) and then sometimes Iโ€™m melancholic. Thatโ€™s a good balance, even if I say so myself.

I canโ€™t be happy all the time and I canโ€™t be sad all the time; and if I want to use my social media to share my joy and laughter, my childrenโ€™s triumphs and squabbles, post pictures of pretty flowers then I donโ€™t think Iโ€™m bordering on showing off. That is the reason why I only have only close family and friends on my personal accounts and a separate one for work. I donโ€™t mix the two together.

There is no way that we can go to a social gathering and not find someone who is busy on their smartphone, either communicating with someone or uploading pictures, updates, or just checking how many โ€˜likesโ€™ or โ€˜retweetsโ€™ their last message got. Many of us are addicted to this instant access to see how popular our posts are and Iโ€™ve even heard people bragging about how many โ€˜likesโ€™ and โ€˜retweetsโ€™ theyโ€™ve got over a certain message.

I can only look at them and smile. Iโ€™m not being condescending at all. On the contrary! I was once on that side of the fence, looking for that instant gratification and then I suddenly realized it didnโ€™t matter. I like being on social media but not to see how many people have liked what I have said. I do it to keep in touch with my close family and friends and share bits about my life, which has brought us so much closer than ever before.

Iโ€™m more confident in life than I was about ten years ago. I have also learnt, somewhat, the art of saying no, so I guess things are more in my control. Iโ€™m actually loving the lack of limitations on me when I wish to soar. If there are any mistakes to be made, they are mine and Iโ€™m responsible for them. No more being told off or being yelled or shouted at for doing something that didnโ€™t agree with someone else. This is a surefire way of getting your esteem slashed to ribbons. The damage done takes years to fix, that is if youโ€™re able to get out of that hole and say you want to fix it. You will end up believing that you are in the wrong when you are not.

Iโ€™ll strongly suggest to you to also become a Nobody in your life simply because Nobody is perfect.


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