At what level do you get pushed?

breaking point

We all have a certain tolerance level.ย  As kids, thereโ€™s only so much of cheek pulling we can take before we roar out and burst into tears of frustration because we are not able to throw a punch at anyone. As you grow older, you back-answer your parents, not because youโ€™re being insolent but youโ€™ve had enough of being ordered around like a slave and feel if you donโ€™t speak up now youโ€™ll end up running away from home or something. As adults, itโ€™s again the vicious circle of family again and also work-mates.

Youโ€™re constantly being pushed and you keep dragging your feet along to keep the peace even though youโ€™re reluctant to do what is being demanded, but because youโ€™re Mr. Nice Guy you give in and let it happen.

While youโ€™re busy giving in, inside you the pressure of all this is building up and then guess what will happen. Yup! Youโ€™ll blow up like a pressure cooker and destroy everything around you.

Iโ€™m not here to tell you to calm down. Iโ€™d rather baptize a cat because I believe that will be easier. Telling someone who is already at a level of annoyance that you want to keep away from to calm down should be done at your own risk. This is not just applicable to women, by the way. People think its just women who have hormonal issues and get really angry or upset when told to calm down. Itโ€™s infuriating to be told that when youโ€™re trying to get a point across rather passionately and youโ€™re told to calm down.

Iโ€™m not going to tell you to meditate or count to ten or focus on the long term effects simply not because itโ€™s not right but because itโ€™s not something I can bring myself to practice no matter how hard I try. Breathing in deeply, counting to ten, visualizing tranquility and whatnot always evades me in time of need. My problem is also that I react very quickly but once Iโ€™ve got it out of my system, Iโ€™m good to go. I donโ€™t carry forward grudges or harsh words that may have been uttered. I tend to forgive very quickly and often get bewildered why people donโ€™t know how to let go and move on.

Iโ€™ve had a woman who didnโ€™t speak to me for years on end because she thought I had insulted her brother. Honestly speaking I donโ€™t even remember the incidence so I was a bit taken aback at this. Of course I apologized but right up to today I often wonder what it was that I might have said almost twenty years ago that was kept in the mind for so long. Funnily, her brother never stopped talking to me!

We all have a point that pushes our buttons to react negatively โ€“ I have mine too but I donโ€™t carry grudges. I let go of things and try my best to move on. Staying stuck in the rut of bringing up forever how you have been wronged only ever ensures you stay stuck in that cycle. Have your rant, cry your eyes out, scream, wipe your nose on someoneโ€™s silk curtains but get on with it. Yes we all have a breaking point but donโ€™t let it shatter you completely.

2 thoughts on “At what level do you get pushed?

  1. Great article Kamal! I definitely know what my button is: it’s when someone talks to me like I am either less than or like I’m stupid. Then the battle lines are drawn!! I often wonder why this is such a hot button for me but haven’t figured it out yet. Keep sending the great reads:)


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