I’m not sure what this is supposed to mean – happily ever after. You read stories that allow you to think that at the end everything is just perfect and there are no more trials and tribulations to go through. Have you ever noticed that this kind of ending is usually reserved for fairy tales where princesses go through hell and suddenly the prince will come and save her from everything and then they… yes… live happily ever after?

It wouldn’t be wrong to assume that many young girls fall into this fantasy of the way things should work out with their partner and them. They look for an ideal based on the prince that they read about in books. Slaying dragons, fighting off the evil people, doing the most absurd things to finally get to the princess.

As I make an admission to falling for all these bells and whistles, I also know I’m not the only who feels the same way. There is an ideal that we have in our mind for our partner. He must look a certain way, he must love me the way I think he should, the nuances of romance and a love language should be ideal and romantic.

But the reality is often quite different. Relationships are complex, and they require effort, compromise, and understanding from both partners. The notion of “happily ever after” can set unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction.

The truth is, happiness is not something that can solely be attained through external circumstances or another person. It lies within each individual. It’s about finding contentment and fulfillment within ourselves, rather than relying on someone else to provide it for us. This shift in perspective is crucial for building healthy and sustainable relationships.

When we place all our hopes and dreams on the idea of a perfect partner who will bring us eternal happiness, we set ourselves up for disappointment. No one is flawless, and expecting someone else to fulfill all our needs and desires is an unfair burden to place on them.

Instead, we should focus on personal growth and self-love. By understanding ourselves better, we can identify our own strengths and weaknesses, and work on becoming the best version of ourselves. This self-improvement not only benefits us individually but also enhances our relationships with others.

We need to recognize that relationships are not always smooth sailing. There will be ups and downs, conflicts and challenges. It’s unrealistic to expect a constant state of bliss without any hardships. True happiness in a relationship comes from the ability to navigate these difficulties together, communicate effectively, and find solutions as a team.

The concept of “happily ever after” can undermine the importance of personal responsibility and accountability. It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming our partner or external circumstances when things go wrong. But true happiness is about taking ownership of our own emotions, actions, and choices. It’s about cultivating a sense of gratitude, resilience, and adaptability, even in the face of adversity.

By shifting our focus from external ideals to internal growth, we can create healthier expectations for our relationships. We can appreciate the imperfections and complexities of our partners, and understand that love is a journey of continuous learning and growth.

Living happily ever after is not about a fairytale ending where everything is perfect. It’s about embracing the imperfections, cherishing the moments of joy, and working through the challenges with a sense of commitment and understanding. The expectation of living happily ever after can be misleading and set unrealistic standards for relationships. True happiness lies within ourselves, and it’s important to focus on personal growth, self-love, and taking responsibility for our own emotions and actions. By doing so, we can cultivate healthier and more fulfilling relationships that stand the test of time.